Falling in love with a friend can be one of the most exciting, frightening, uplifting and confusing experiences. The deep connection that is so important in a romantic partner may already be present in a good friendship. All of these emotions stem from the fear of losing a close friend and the fear of potentially refraining from confessing feelings to someone who could be a significant other for a lifetime.
There’s a lot to gain and a lot to lose. If you’re falling in love with your best friend, you’re probably clueless about the best course of action.
For a start, you may want to sit down and take a deep breath. Analyzing your own emotions is very important because you can otherwise commit one of the biggest mistakes in your life.
Are You Really in Love?
An honest, committed and exciting friendship can easily bring those butterflies that will make you mistake the emotion with love. Are you really in love with your best friend? You may want to take a step back and think about those emotions before having the conversation.
There’s a difference between friendship attraction and romantic attraction.
Friendship attraction is a very strong liking that doesn’t have a sexual component. The sexual desire may develop in time but originally, it’s not there. You enjoy spending time together but you don’t feel a physical urge, the chemistry and desire to move away from the platonic level of connecting with each other.
There are a lot of factors that go into choosing a relationship. Romantic attraction isn’t just sexual attraction. This type of attraction brings together friendship and physical attraction. It’s all-encompassing and this is the scenario in which we can speak about love.
Take some time to figure out where you stand right now. It’s possible to experience physical attraction towards a friend and it’s possible for the attraction to be short-lived. This type of physical attraction is normal but it doesn’t come with a romantic component. Whether you’re going to act on this urge and become “friends with benefits” depends on both of you. Many people refrain from acting on the impulse because they don’t want to ruin the friendship.
If you find yourself thinking about a friend all the time, wondering what it would be to have a relationship with that person and to build a future together, chances are that you’re experiencing romantic attachment.
You may want to ask yourself a couple of important questions before telling your friend anything about the feelings you have.
Taking the Relationship to the Next Level
If you’re 100 percent confident that you’re in love with your best friend, you’ll have to gather up the courage and confess those feelings.
It’s possible to become something more than friends but you’ll have to take a chance. Once again, don’t rush it. You could be mistaking a certain type of attraction with something much more serious. Think about it, explore your emotions and if you’re certain – go ahead!