The world of introverts is quite different from what other people see and do. You’re often seen as shy and withdrawn. Chances are that being an introvert affects your friendships and your relationships with significant others.
Introvert-extrovert relationships feature interesting dynamics. Though two such people may seem quite different, they have an opportunity for building a balanced and harmonious relationship.
If you’re an introvert and you’re worried about making your relationship with an extroverted individual work, you may want to keep the following tips in mind.
The Dynamics of Introvert-Extrovert Relationships
The dynamics of introvert-extrovert relationships feature numerous easily identifiable characteristics. The two of you are very likely to communicate differently, to enjoy different things and to have a specific manner of dealing with problems. So, if the following are valid, chances are that you’re in an introvert-extrovert relationship:
The Most Important Factor for Relationship Success
We’ve included conflict resolution as the top item in the previous section. There’s a reason why. The way in which couples deal with conflicts is one of the most determining factors for relationship success. Thus, to make the introvert-extrovert dynamics work, you’ll have to focus on dealing with problems effectively.
As you probably know already, introverts and extroverts approach conflict resolution differently. There are several possible scenarios that will boost the effectiveness of the communication.
In the case of a conflict, an extrovert will act emotionally and impulsively. They’re likely to say what’s on their mind and look for a resolution immediately.
An introvert may agree with the extrovert’s point of view in order to get it over with fast. Alternatively, an introverted partner may shut down completely and take some time to process the situation.
An extroverted partner could do something else – guide the introverted partner through revealing their emotions and working on the problem together. If the two individuals have been together long enough, they understand the differences. Still, it’s possible to make it work if the extrovert communicates and the introvert is open to guidance.
Many introverted individuals can get passive aggressive in the case of a conflict. If the extroverted partner doesn’t allow the introvert to shut down and become aloof, chances are that things will work out.
Improving the Communication and Other Tips for Relationship Happiness
Dealing with conflicts is very important but there are several other things you can do as an introvert to make your relationship with an extroverted individual work:
By Wilma Derksen, C.E.C., O.M.
Therapist and Coach