What could be healthier than having a strong, respectful relationship with your brothers and sisters? These are the people that know you best. Having support from your family can be of incredible importance for making big decisions and knowing that someone has your back.
Unfortunately, many people can’t brag about having the best family in the world. In fact, these people believe that they have nothing in common with siblings.
Are you one of those individuals? If so, you aren’t alone. Many people lose the connection with their brothers and sisters over the years. Understanding the reason for the loss of proximity will be one of the essentials for making things better in the future.
The Importance of having a Healthy Relationship with Your Siblings
Besides the very obvious benefits of being a friend with your brother or sister, having a relationship with a sibling can have much more profound benefits for both of you.
This is one of the most enduring relationships in the life of a person. It starts during childhood, it continues through a period of turbulent transition and ideally, this relationship continues evolving throughout the adulthood years.
An interesting study has examined the lives of 300 men and the results were published in the Harvard Study of Adult Development. Researchers found out that 93 percent of the men that were having a good life at the age of 65 had a close relationship with a sibling early on in their life. The researchers also established a link between a bad relationship with a sibling during the first 20 years of life and the increased risk of suffering from depression later on.
When we come to think about it, having a happy relationship and being close with siblings during those crucial early years is most definitely important for maintaining psychological health and having a strong support system later on in life.
Main Reasons Why Siblings Grow Distant
Chances are that you can’t remember when the relationship with your sibling went sour. Some people are capable of pinpointing an exact moment during which the split took place. For others, the drift was slow and gradual.
Several common factors could contribute to poor relationships between siblings:
Building a Relationship with Your Siblings Once Again
Chances are that the two of you had little in common, chances are that your parents didn’t do anything to make things better. Is it still possible to build a relationship with your sibling and to overcome the animosity, in case it has taken control of your lives?
Getting to know each other better will be challenging since you’re already adults. You don’t have a lot of things in common and chances are that you lead totally independent lives. Still, starting from scratch is possible if everyone involved is committed to making things better:
By Wilma Derksen, C.E.C., O.M.
Therapist and Coach